There is no garment that is as emotionally charged as the bra. Many women in the US and Canada have a lot of fear about going braless. Some women give reasons related to comfort; some are related to modesty. But I think the majority of women that I have encountered believe that going braless makes their breasts sag.
Let me start by saying that bra wearing does not prevent sagging. In fact, wearing an incorrectly fitted bra over an extended period of time causes the body shape to become distorted and will eventually lead to health problems. If wearing badly fitted shoes for years makes your feet look distorted and leads to health problems, why would an incorrectly fitted bra not cause problems too? After all, a bra is a closely fitted garment, so if it is not fitted correctly, it will reduce the circulation of blood and toxins, among other things.
Even though I am a custom bra maker, I think that the wearing of a bra is a personal choice, not an obligation, that a woman needs to make. No woman should feel forced into wearing a bra because of comments made by another woman or a man. Furthermore, I do not think that a woman who prefers being braless is immoral, sloppy, or any other derogatory term.
Unfortunately, in our world women are bombarded with all kinds of messages about our body and age. I personally have noticed that it does not matter how intelligent, charming, or well-achieved a woman is; she is almost always judged by her appearance. Men often get blamed for this, but most women judge each other and themselves the same way. I think this is very sad, and pointing the finger at one gender does nothing other than cause a lot of undue suffering.
Our world is in desperate need of a change in mental attitude for both women and men. We need to learn to accept ourselves as we are. A woman with a small bust is just as beautiful, and no less a woman, as a woman with a larger bust. I think that women are naturally beautiful in whatever shapes and sizes they are.
It takes a strong person to stand by their convictions and stay true to themselves. I would much rather see women that feel empowered in themselves and truly love and accept themselves, than see women hide their insecurities or body image issues with a garment. A bra does not give you self-confidence if you don’t already have it to begin with. Your strength and beauty is really on the inside, and that is what shows on the outside.
I realize that sometimes a woman wants to wear a particular outfit that would be better suited with a bra underneath, and that is okay. If she wants to wear an outfit and not wear a bra underneath, that is okay too. What I am saying is that a bra is a garment like any other. You can choose to wear it or not. Either way, you are still the same person. Love yourself and let it show.
“When you think everything is someone else’s fault, you will suffer a lot. When you realize that everything springs only from yourself, you will learn both peace and joy.”
“If you don’t love yourself, you cannot love others. You will not be able to love others. If you have no compassion for yourself then you are not able of developing compassion for others.”
“Every day, think as you wake up, today I am fortunate to be alive, I have a precious human life, I am not going to waste it. I am going to use all my energies to develop myself, to expand my heart out to others; to achieve enlightenment for the benefit of all beings. I am going to have kind thoughts towards others, I am not going to get angry or think badly about others. I am going to benefit others as much as I can.”